“You can’t be Autistic, you’re a girl!”

autistickitten:

….I get that a lot. From far too many people.

When I tell people “I am Autistic,” it’s usually because I’ve gotten to know them a bit, and  in the hopes it will help them understand me.

Usually, they give me a confused look and say that I can’t be Autistic because of my sex, or they say I must be lying because I can speak.

This infuriates me. Yes, Autism is more common in men, allegedly. I think it’s because females are harder to diagnose. It took me awhile to get my diagnosis because of that belief. Yeah. Even some DOCTORS believe that.

Females are naturally more expressive, and often less violent. Often, what gets children diagnosed at an earlier age is an absence of verbal speech and/or violent tendencies. Boys are often a bit more aggressive than girls.

Too often, females are overlooked in the Autistic community, and in the medical community. We are often called liars, or attention-seekers, even LAZY.

People tell me to “get over it” when I feel overstimulated or scared, even when I stammer. I get mocked because of my speech patterns. People assume I’m just nervous. I’m fed up. Completely. I’ve met some amazing ASD females since starting this blog, but before then, I knew NONE outside of my family.

That’s why fullangr and I created AGC.

-Eliza

Thankfully even though I have AS (and was medically diagnosed at a fairly young age) I hadn’t experienced this. Except for having trouble with getting diagnosis itself because my mom was told I was either ADD or just slow.